The holidays are a time for family, laughter, and connection—a season that brings loved ones together in a relaxed and reflective setting. This togetherness can create a unique opportunity to discuss important topics like estate planning or caring for aging parents.
Having these conversations during the holidays can feel like a big task, but it’s an important step in making sure your parents’ wishes are respected. The holidays often bring the whole family together, providing a rare chance for siblings and other key family members to be part of the same discussion. With everyone present, it’s easier to share information, align on responsibilities, and ensure that everyone understands the plan moving forward. By addressing these topics in a supportive and thoughtful environment, you can foster clarity and prevent misunderstandings in the future.
Here are a few tips to help you approach the subject naturally during the holiday season.
- Pick the Right Moment
Timing matters. Look for a quiet moment when everyone is relaxed, like after a meal or during a casual conversation. Avoid bringing it up in the middle of holiday chaos or when emotions are running high.
- Be Gentle and Understanding
Talking about estate planning can feel overwhelming for some parents, so approach the conversation with care. You might start with something like, “I want to make sure we’re all prepared and can help in the way you’d want if anything ever came up.” Framing it as wanting to support them can make a big difference.
- Ease Into It
Don’t jump straight to legal documents or hard questions. Start with general topics, like their thoughts on health care or long-term care preferences. Once the conversation is flowing, you can bring up specifics like creating a durable power of attorney or health care proxy.
- Focus on the Positives
Explain how having a plan in place gives everyone peace of mind. A power of attorney ensures someone they trust can step in if needed, and a health care proxy and living will make sure their medical wishes are followed. Let them know this is about protecting their choices—not taking them away.
- Work as a Team
Remind your parents that this isn’t something they have to figure out alone. Offer to help them connect with an estate planning attorney who can guide them through the process. Let them know you’re there to support them, not to make decisions for them.
- Share Real-Life Stories
Sometimes a story helps get the message across. You could share an example of a friend or relative who was glad they had a plan—or the challenges someone faced without one. Keep it relatable and avoid being too heavy-handed.
- Respect Their Pace
If your parents aren’t ready to talk, don’t force it. Let them know you’re available whenever they feel comfortable revisiting the topic. Being patient and understanding will help build trust.
Take the next step in protecting your family’s future. Contact Roth Elder Law today to schedule an appointment and ensure your loved ones are cared for according to your wishes. To get started, call our office at 607-962-6162 or fill out our intake form and we will be in touch to schedule a meeting.